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Signs of relationship problems:

As you think about these signs of relationship problems, keep in mind most youngsters do not have these difficulties on any continuing basis. Young people have better days and worse days; but on the whole, they are developing satisfactorily and getting along fine interpersonally.

Some children do have problems with people and relationships, though. For the most part, these youngsters also are having other difficulties. The most common additional difficulty is a serious change in their self-esteem. In fact, it is unusual to see serious, interpersonal maladjustment in a child who does not have self-esteem difficulties.

Something is going on in your child's world causing him to have trouble getting along with people. If he has not always had trouble, something is going on now. What has changed? What happened at school or somewhere else to cause problems with his friends? What is not working as well for him as it had been? The cause is there if you can be patient enough and persistent enough to find it. The likelihood is your youngster already knows exactly what changed. The question is whether you can help him feel safe enough to share it with you.

If you answer Yes to any of the following questions, your child is or is becoming interpersonally maladjusted. Proceed gently but persistently.

The signs that follow are divided into three groups. The first group deals with problems getting along with other children. The second focuses on difficulties related to low self- esteem; and the third considers signs of withdrawal and isolation. Consider all three areas in order to fully explore the types and range of relationship problems your children may exhibit.

Does your child

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